Healing Everyday Trauma

Healing Everyday Trauma
by Dr. Kixx Goldman

I once met a woman called Cindy who earned her living by pole dancing in a nightclub. Wanting to understand more about Cindy’s background and the performance art, Ibest-pole-dance- searched YouTube and found videos of champion pole dancers. As I watched, I was struck by a disconnect. In our culture, these women are often stereotyped as sleazy or seductive. I see them instead as artistic and graceful, consummate athletes.

Cindy was 6 when her mother died. She became close to her father but he, being the main provider, worked long hours and hired a young woman to look after the her and her brother. Cindy witnessed this woman brutally beating her little brother and feared she’d remain haunted by the pain of his death, forever.

My heart went out to Cindy. Her childhood losses were traumatic. But she found solace in two important ways. In a family friend she found a supportive and loyal mentor. Her mentor encouraged Cindy to study, and she became a beautiful and graceful dancer. She and the other pole dancers worked at a club together and shared their interior lives. Over time, Cindy found comfort in the bonds of sisterhood and healed her grief, though she would never lose the memories of her childhood wounds.

Jim, the man Cindy fell in love with, remained haunted. At too early an age, he had felt helpless and guilt-ridden after he was unable to save his childhood sweetheart from a tragic accident. Additionally, his emotionally distant father had abandoned the family, and Jim became a caregiver, a “parent” to his mother.

Individuals respond to trauma in various, deep, and far-reaching ways. Have you ever wondered how some people are able to survive wounds and overcome their grief to become hopeful and productive, while others feel hopeless, stuck, or depressed?

We don’t always know how early traumatic experiences will be processed or how deeply these experiences will affect our lives. We can only reflect upon what it is in a person’s make-up or background that enables one to survive and thrive, while another still struggles.

When we look at people’s early lives, we can see the different circumstances that played a part in developing the way they respond to traumatic events. Trauma expert Bessel van der Kolk notes that people who live in deeply caring and accepting environments handle potentially traumatic events much better than those living in harsher environments.

One day, I came across a tiny snapshot of a man I’d been given as a prompt in a writing workshop. The soulful and searching look in his eyes reminded me of Jim. I decided to write a story, inspired by events in Cindy’s and Jim’s lives. I decided to call the main character “Ned.” When Ned found his way onto the blank page in front of me and became the narrator, I was surprised and uncertain. Could I write a story in the first person, as a man? Be that guy? As it turned out, Ned became my muse. Dancer Misty joined him a few pages later, and my admiration for the characters began to grow.

As the tale unfolds, we see Misty healed. She is fortunate. She experienced loving support from her parents and a wise family friend. Ned is not as fortunate. He must learn from Misty.

Misty and Ned, and their real-life models, Cindy and Jim, are examples of Van der Kolk’s wisdom. They are characters of different temperament and background who deal with trauma in different ways. As my fictional version closes, we can only hope Ned will follow in Misty’s footsteps, to heal and grow.

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Dr. Kixx Goldman
, psychologist and author, migrated to Phoenix from Vancouver to Kixx Goldmanretire her hip waders and pursue her passion for prose. Her research on relationships has been published. Kixx’s collection of short fiction is inspired by experiences in her life and the lives of her clients. Kixx loves helping people follow their intuition and claim their power. Speak from Your Heart and Be Heard: Stories of Courage and Healing, will be released in spring 2019. The short story, “Deception,” was recently published in the anthology, Heat of the Moment. Follow Kixx on Facebook and learn more about her at DrKixxGoldman.com.

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“Come Together Right Now, Over Me”

“Come Together Right Now, Over Me”

by Laura Cafiso

7th Ave & Osborn Intersection

A King Charles Spaniel is marching royally down the middle of Osborn Road (a busy Phoenix street), just west of 7th Avenue. What the hell? Dog literally looks like he’s leading a parade. Cars are following him because no one wants to hit him. I pull over and jump out to start chasing him, because he’s about to enter the middle of the intersection.

A lady in a red Honda Civic yells at me, “Are you trying to catch that dog?”

“Yes!” I yell back.

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Car does a U-ie and turns east on Osborn to follow this dog. I run east across 7th Avenue, and a guy pulling out of the Mi Patio restaurant parking lot asks me if I want a ride the catch that dog.

“Yes!” I shout and jump in his car.

We realize the dog has turned down a side street. We turn and see the red Honda lady from the passenger side and a high school aged boy trying to corner this very fast, determined, and still-running dog. I jump out of the car and yell “Thanks!” to random guy. He leaves.

I run toward the dog, and we think we have him cornered, but he runs between us all. He gets back on Osborn, heading east IN THE MIDDLE OF THE STREET. I am running behind him in the middle of the street, Red Honda Civic Lady on one side of street and High School Dude on the other side.

A lady on a balcony with her own dog yells down, “Do you want some dog treats?”

“Yes!” I yell back.

I stop and she throws them down from her fourth-story balcony. I gather them up and go back to the middle of the street where a lady almost hits me with her car. All these other cars have slowed down, respecting the fact that three different people are trying to catch this pup. I am able to get ahead of the dog, and so are Red Honda Civic Lady and High School Dude.

So now the dog turns around and runs back the way we came, heading west on Osborn. Crosses the street and heads down another side street. Dog barely ever stops, like he’s on meth or steroids or something.

I am yelling, “What the hell? I am so fucking tired.”

A lady I do not know is running with me; she yells back, “I know,” laughing.

High School Dude is determined and barely takes a break before he resumes the chase. We corner this dog again on the street, and he stops to pee in a yard. This time I start calling for him and throwing treats at him. He ignores the treats and turns off the street. I go down the longest alley ever, behind this street. When I exit the other side of the alley, I’m panting. I turn back on the street hoping to bump into our friend, this invincible dog.

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A white SUV slows down to talk to me, “Are you after that dog?”

“Yes,” I admit.

“They caught him and got him in the red Civic.”

“Wow, thanks.”

I catch up to High School Dude, who is now with a middle schooler and an older man in flip flops.

“Well damn… are you a long-distance runner?” I ask him.

“No. Soccer player.”

“You’re awesome.” Fist bump.

“That little guy would not stop.”

This older man and young girl nod in agreement. I’m mystified. Who are they?

“Wait, are you with him?” I ask.

High School Dude says, “This is my dad and sister.” Oh!

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“How did you catch him?” I’m dying to know because this was the most stubborn animal I’ve ever seen. Or chased for that matter.

High School Dude says, “I was running alongside of him and the Honda was driving alongside of him and I managed to pick him up and throw him in the Civic.”

“Damn! Did he try to bite you?”

“No, he was fine.”

“He looks like he’s well taken care of. Did he have a collar on him?” I ask.

“No.”

“We can take him to Alta Vista pet clinic and see if he has a chip.”

“Yeah that’s what they said, too.”

“Dang, that woman almost hit you,” the middle schooler said. “Couldn’t she tell all the cars were going slow?”

“I KNOW!” I said.

We cross over to the Safeway parking lot where this little varmint is now sitting in the lap of Honda Civic Lady, just as calm as can be. His white fur is very clean and his nails are short. He is definitely someone’s prince (or princess?). We agree how cool it was to see everyone work together like that. We all thank each other and go our separate ways.

All these random people – various ages, ethnicities, genders, classes – just spent 45 minutes making sure this dog didn’t get mowed down in traffic. Hopefully the intrepid pup is safely back home by now. But for a short time, he managed to rally the most diverse group of people to come together. Ain’t that something!

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As a girl,
Laura Cafiso carried tall stacks of books out of the library, reading voraciouslyLaura Cafisowith the goal of becoming a writer. Her professional career has included stints as a public school teacher, television writer/producer, and nonprofit event planner/fundraiser. In 2009 Laura was nominated for a Rocky Mountain Emmy Award for her writing/production. In 2016, she launched her own professional writing services business. She has been published as a freelance writer for local papers, ghostwrites blog posts, and writes business communication for her real estate clients. Her first book is still in the brainstorming phase. Learn more at her website.

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Women’s Present-Day Month

Women’s Present-Day Month

by Patricia Grady Cox

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It’s Women’s History Month, when we take time to honor all the women who have contributed great things to our country: medicine, technology, education, political movements, and more. Often this honor embraces an entire group of women: suffragettes, activists, members of the armed forces, first responders. Among these groups a few examples are singled out and portrayed as inspiration for all of us.

Those women deserve the honor.

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But here is what I wonder: how many great women who contributed amazing things in the past do we even know about? I am always amazed when one example after another crops up to inform us of yet another mathematical achievement, medical breakthrough, artistic endeavor or any great accomplishment that had previously been attributed to men. Only now we are discovering that it was a woman who did this, did that, and did the other amazing thing. And a man took the credit.

I wanted to write about this so I went to Google and typed in “Achievements Credited to Men but Women Did It.” Ten pages of articles came up. So I’m not going to write about it. You can Google it yourself.

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Instead, I will say this: look around you. Accomplished, intelligent, motivated, adventurous women who contribute every day to their families, friends, and businesses surround you. They contribute to their communities. They run for office. They volunteer, bestow compassion, support their friends, and watch out for others. They leave indelible impacts everywhere–good impacts that will resonate far into the future.

Let’s be sure to appreciate this. Let’s be sure to make Women’s History Month in the decades to come a celebration of the time when the world’s consciousness arose to an awareness in the present of the contributions women make. When we’ll realize it’s not a month designated to appreciate a few stand-out women that were finally uncovered, but the woman standing right next to you. Honor that woman. Every day. Start now.

Mary Grady

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Patricia Grady Cox
is a member of Western Writers of America and Women Writing Trish Coxthe West. Her nonfiction work has appeared in magazines, newspapers, and ghost-written memoirs. Patricia has volunteered at the Pioneer Arizona Living History Museum where she experienced, first-hand, the realities of life in the 1800s. Her love of the Southwest – the landscape, the history, the culture – infuses her work with authenticity. Originally from Rhode Island, she moved to Arizona 24 years ago and currently lives in Phoenix. Her novel, Chasm Creek, is available on Amazon or through her website. Patricia blogs weekly at Patricia Grady Cox, WriterHer second novel, HELLGATE, is now on sale.

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Some Dreams Do Come True

Some Dreams Do Come True

by Beth Kozan

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I was in Tucson, driving back to our newly rented apartment after a job interview. I switched on the car radio as a song by Peter, Paul & Mary ended. The DJ said, “…and that was Peter, Paul & Mary singing John Denver’s ‘Leaving on a Jet Plane.’” I almost ran the car off the road!

I had attended Texas Tech with John Deutchendorf (aka John Denver; aka Dutch) who enrolled in Texas Tech’s architecture program the same year I started in Allied Arts. I had classes of Basic Design and Freehand Drawing with Dutch over the next year and a half. He was friendly – the kind of “I’ve never met a stranger” friendly.

In our sophomore year (January 1963), he was late getting back to Texas Tech from his home in Ft. Worth after Christmas break. Our professors told us Dutch had come to say goodbye on his way to California to become a star! The professors hooted and laughed at the mere idea.

Through the rumor mill, I became aware in the intervening years that Dutch had changed his name to John Denver; he’d played at Disneyland under his new name. And he’d replaced Chad Mitchell in the Chad Mitchell Trio. I’d seen him on the Tonight Show.

I didn’t know he was writing so many good songs until I bought his albums Poems, Prayers & Promises and listened to his records.

In my summer Texas Tech speech class, a fellow student played guitar and sang “Leaving on a Jet Plane”; it was a nice song, but I didn’t know (and wasn’t interested in knowing) who wrote it.

But I was a John Denver fan. I listened to “Rocky Mountain High,” “Sunshine on My Shoulders,” and “Thank God I’m a Country Boy.” I bought several of his albums; I watched him host TV specials with the Muppets and with Jacques Cousteau. I heard John sing in person in Tucson on his 40th birthday concert tour.

I used John’s story and music to calm my aunt who didn’t understand why her nephew (my cousin) didn’t return to the flat west Texas plains but chose to settle in Colorado when he got out of the Army after Viet Nam. I wrote the words to “Rocky Mountain High” in a letter to her. She said it helped her.

John Denver wrote meaningful songs that seemed to come easily to him. I think that in some mystical, magical way, he connected with Higher Spirits and simply took dictation. I was saddened by his death, but the way he died – flying an experimental plane off the California coast, alone – was, perhaps also a choice he made, like choosing to live in Colorado.

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Beth Kozan
is the author of the book Adoption: More Than by Chance and the forthcoming Beth KozanHelping the Birth Mother You Know. Beth worked in adoption for 35 years and retired to write. She has many more books than these titles to write and will emphasize and explore the concept of community in her additional books. “Growing up in a close agriculture-based, rural community in Texas, I felt the comfort and bonds of caring for others which is often missing in our busy lives today. Exploring and building communities for today is my writer’s goal.” Follow Beth on Facebook or visit her website, where she reviews books and films featuring adoption.

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How The Effective Author Triumphs Over a Cold

How The Effective Author Triumphs Over a Cold

© 2019 Kebba Buckley Button. World Rights Reserved.

Authors require clarity and productivity. We need to feel good. And colds eat our clarity, woman with coldmoods, and productivity. We need to beat colds fast! Fortunately, there are more ways than ever to help yourself beat a cold, quickly and inexpensively.

Secret #1: Is it really a cold, or is it the flu? Severe muscle aches indicate flu (influenza), probably not a cold. Call your doctor right away. New antiviral prescriptions may help you. Also, if you have special medical conditions that mean you should call your doctor in case of cold/flu symptoms, do that immediately. Prefer a homeopathic remedy? Try Oscillococcinum® from any health food store, drug store, or Target for less than $15. Dissolved under the tongue, this is a very effective remedy for many.

Secret #2: Support your body! Use rest, fluids, and soaking. Whether it’s a cold or the flu, get extra rest. Drink lots of water and soup. Take a hot bath, at the “ahhhhh” temperature for you, which may be about 103 degrees F. Add one to two pounds of Epsom salts and set a timer so you stay in for at least 20 minutes. If you are concerned about your tub’s jets being hurt by the Epsom salts, dissolve them before adding to the tub, or buy your Epsom salts in liquid form.

Secret #3: Treat a sore throat with natural gargle. If your throat hurts, mix salt and baking soda in equal proportions in a small storage jar; use a teaspoon of the mix in a glass of pleasantly hot water, and gargle thoroughly. Make deep tones while you gargle to allow the liquid reach further into the back of your throat.

Secret #4: Try a homeopathic remedy. A popular one for colds is Coldcalm®, made by the same company that makes Oscillococcinum® for flu. Just follow the package directions.

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Secret #5: Use strengthening nutritional aids. Play around with these to see which work best for you. These are inexpensive and can strengthen your immune system to beat the cold virus quickly.

  • Drink black or green tea with minimally processed honey in it. The tea contains heart-healthy compounds, and the honey contains many enzymes and other energizing nutritional components. Get organic tea, loose or in non-paper bags. The chlorine in the paper may give some people joint pain.
  • Eat yang foods. In Chinese medicine, a cold is a “yin” condition, so adding “yang” foods to your body will make you feel much better and literally make you more vital, right away. Keep warm (yang) and drink your tea or soup warm. Stir a little ginger powder into your tea or chicken soup. You probably have ginger powder in your spice rack. Or use ginger extract drops from your health food store.
  • Try Vitamin C with bioflavonoids. One highly absorbable form is the widely available Emergen-C®, available in most grocery stores and drugstores in many flavors; the small packets contain ascorbate compounds of Vitamin C, B complex, and minerals. Related popular products include Cold-EEZE® and Airborne®. Try different formulas to find the one/s you like best. Most pharmacies now carry these.
  • Soluble B-12 with folic acid and B-6 is also widely available now.
  • Eat fresh fruit, if possible, not frozen or canned due to the loss of nutrition and vital life force energy that occurs during processing. The colors represent the natural bioflavonoids. Add fresh lemon to your tea.
  • Herbal drops are widely available for strengthening the immune functions. Separately or in combined drops, these may include: astragalus, echinacea, goldenseal, shitake or reishi mushroom, fresh red root, licorice root, and suma root.

Secret #6: Get some energy therapy. Jin Shin Jyutsu and Reiki can lift you right out of a cold. You will notice the results immediately and come out of your cold on a higher vitality level than you went into it with. Try one or more of these suggestions and let me know what worked best for you.

Don’t let a cold steal your time and energy! Charge down this list and get back to your productivity fast. To triumph over a cold is yet another way to be the ever more Effective Authorsm!

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Kebba Buckley Button
is a stress management expert with a natural healing practice. She also is an ordained minister whose passion is helping people find their Peace Within. She is the author of the award-winning book, Discover The Secret Energized You, available on Amazon, plus Inspirations for Peace Within: Quotes and Images to Uplift and InspireIPW is available on Amazon in full-color glossy format. Her newest book is Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine, also on Amazon in full-color. For full-color PDF versions, contact her office. For an appointment or to ask Kebba to speak for your group: calendar@kebba.com.

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Write About What You Know… (or Not!)

Write About What You Know… (or Not!)  

by Rita Goldner

Writers are often directed in how-to books, classes, and webinars to write about a Agent H20.jpgfamiliar subject, something about which they can speak with authority. Even better, the writing coaches suggest, is to have some pedigree or title that makes you a recognized expert and gives you some gravitas. This school of thought is widely accepted by readers, but I prefer the opposite approach. Most of my blogs and ALL of my children’s picture books are about topics previously unknown to me.

When I wrote the blog The Story of the Edmond Fitzgerald, I had no clue about this piece of history, other than the song by Gordon Lightfoot.

Fortunately, research these days is a cinch. No trips to the library required, everything is at my fingertips on the internet. This is a good-news/bad-news conundrum; although it’s easy, fast and fun, it also leads to the inevitable rabbit-hole of unrelated interesting stuff that pops up and distracts me. Notwithstanding the time-stealing detours, I dive into weird science, strange history, and bizarre looking animals.

My articles on the Blue-Footed Booby, Pangolin, Two-Toed Sloth, Tardigrade, and Axolotl, all available for perusal on my personal page of this blog (Rita Goldner), were themes about which I knew little, and in some cases had no clue whatsoever. Hopefully my fans like posts from an unschooled learner who can share a fresh perspective, as well as wide-eyed wonder.

I’ll caution writers using my tactic about two things:

  1. You shouldn’t present yourself as an expert, but as someone discovering something new, along with your reader.
  2. Don’t ever admit you looked at Wikipedia as part of your research, or quote it as a reference. It’s not a respected source in the literary community. I’ll admit I’ve used Wikipedia as a springboard, giving me ideas or different facets of the topic, which I then research via other, more reputable sites.

I write children’s picture books, so the “wide-eyed wonder” shtick is a good fit. But some of my favorite books for adults also have parts that the author couldn’t possibly have known. I’m a fan of James A. Michener, and in his novel Chesapeake, he had several chapters about a soft-shelled crab at the bottom of the bay. In Centennial, he went back in Colorado history to the age of dinosaurs. Space contains heaps of information about the space program. Knowing Michener did loads of research makes me an even bigger fan.

My books so far have been about world travel, the airplane, an orangutan, the water cycle, and a rhinoceros. In every case I had a little interest, but almost no knowledge. Ideas pop into my head on a regular basis, but they are in the form of questions and curiosity. I started this writing/illustrating business more for fun than for profit, and that agenda has been attained.

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Comments welcome.

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Rita Goldner
is the author and illustrator of the children’s picture book, Orangutan: A Rita Goldner2Day in the Rainforest Canopy. Rita has also written and illustrated two eBooks, Jackson’s History Adventure and Jackson’s Aviation Adventure, in the Jackson’s Adventure series.For orangutan facts and images and to purchase the book (also available as an ebook), visit OrangutanDay.com. Or by the Kindle version here. Rita’s newest book, Making Marks on the World: A Storybook for Left- and Right-Handed Coloring, is available for purchase here. Works in progress: H2O Rides the Water CycleThe Flying Artist, and Rose ColoredTo view additional illustrations and Rita’s books in progress, visit Rita’s website. Contact Rita here. Follow Rita on Facebook. Subscribe to Rita’s newsletter, Orangutans and More! and receive a free coloring page of today’s illustration.

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The Power of the Mind and Beliefs

The Power of the Mind and Beliefs

by Rob Pikula

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Over the past 15 years, I have been pondering how and why we form our thoughts. I realized that many of us may never have considered how these beliefs could be working for, or against, our highest good. I watch how so many people, seemingly without thought, pass judgment while looking outside of themselves. They seem so easily to point a finger at others’ behaviors without realizing that their own judgments and beliefs are hurting themselves. For some, this concept of self-pain may be difficult to swallow, but as we learn more about ourselves, we discover that these negative beliefs can only be seen as hurting the core of who we are. It is time to realize that our inner thoughts and beliefs can be changed for the better. We can shift our perspective on these matters, and in the process help not only ourselves, but all of humanity.

For years I have been researching people like Gregg Braden, Dr. Wayne Dyer, and Louise Hay. Louise was a well-known author and motivational speaker for more than 40 years. She passed away after reaching 90+ years and wrote many books, most notably, You Can Heal Your Life. She has healed millions of people by teaching them to change their thoughts and beliefs. She even went as far as creating a list of all ailments in the body and connecting them with the way we think. Once we change a certain thought, we can heal the coordinating part of the body.

Your thoughts and beliefs of the past have created this moment, and all the moments up to this moment. What you are now choosing to believe and think and say will create the next moment and the next day and the next month and the next year.”

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When we expand our thinking and beliefs, our love flows freely. When we contract, we shut ourselves off. Can you remember the last time when you were in love? Your heart went ahhh!! It was such a wonderful feeling. It is the same with loving yourself, except that you will never leave once you have your love for yourself. It’s with you for the rest of your life, so you want to make it the best relationship that you can have.

― Louise L. Hay

Let’s take a step back and look at the bigger concept of belief in general. Beliefs have been brought forth from many understandings, over many lifetimes. Some of our beliefs have been brought through in our subconscious mind over the many centuries and lifetimes we have lived in various time periods that preceded our current life. Beliefs also originate from different cultures, religions, traditions, and values handed down from our parents. As we grow, these teachings begin to take shape in our minds. Slowly, over time, these ideas become our core beliefs.

As we live and grow, our thoughts gradually become influenced through reading and listening to ideas from all manner of sources. Think of all the different ways we are influenced by information. There are many sources of data, such as scientists’ findings, books, teachers and schools, quotes and statements from famous people, film, the media, etc. All of these ideas form the collection of data, existing in our minds, which we have come to think of as proof. But is it really proof?

According to Wikipedia:

Belief is the state of mind in which a person thinks something to be the case, with or without there being empirical evidence to prove that something is the case with factual certainty. Another way of defining belief sees it as a mental representation of an attitude positively oriented towards the likelihood of something being true.”

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“[P]hilosophers use the term ‘belief’ to refer personal attitudes associated with true or false ideas and concepts. However, ‘belief’ does not require active introspection and circumspection.”

For example, a couple years ago I was wearing a t-shirt that had my name on it, along with a symbol of a dragon. Many positive meanings are associated with the dragon. If you do your due diligence, research will reveal that the dragon symbol represents the embodiment of primordial power – the ultimate ruler of all the elements. This is because the dragon is believed to be the master of all the elements: Fire, Water, Earth, and Wind. This is a symbol of balance, symbolic of equality. This is where my heart lies, in the knowing of positive thinking.

So I wore this shirt as I walked into the deli area of a grocery store. As I was about to sit down at a table there, a woman pointed at my shirt and told her husband (loudly enough for me to hear), “He is in a cult.” The woman’s husband started to look at me rather fearfully. It was difficult for me to fathom why they would think this way. Was it because of the religious beliefs they have embodied over time, or perhaps personal experience with a cult? Or was it simply a judgment? Needless to say, the woman had no idea what the true meaning of a dragon was.

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When I looked at myself in that moment, I realized I was not standing up for myself. I wasn’t speaking for myself, explaining the truth about the dragon symbol to this couple. Perhaps I should have been able to confidently teach them, with no concern for their reaction. But my thoughts at that moment were, Don’t they know any better? Why aren’t they willing to grow and learn because of such a rude comment, to put it nicely. I found myself forming my own judgment and attitude about them instead of educating them. So where does my belief come from? I had to take the time to think about that. You can see how this method of passing judgment works both ways, as we create our reality with both our thoughts and our beliefs.

Jonathan Leicester, author of the book, What Beliefs are Made From, suggests that belief has the purpose of guiding action, rather than indicating truth. This statement resonated with me. Many religious leaders, since the dawn of religion, have been changing the perspective of what God is, while creating fear, thereby seemingly controlling us by creating the belief that God will punish humans if we don’t obey. Many will agree with me that this idea is the furthest from the truth.

We have never been separated from God. His energy is in all living things at a higher frequency of love that we can’t see with the naked eye but can be felt. Love at this higher frequency does not punish or turn to hatefulness if we don’t obey. People can learn to discern and feel the truth within themselves. You can feel it in your heart. The God I have learned to know is all Creator, all loving in all things. Change your perspective toward the idea of a loving Creator, and feel the shift within. This shift will feel subtle, but you will feel a level of peace, comfort, and an enormous amount of love. It won’t be immediate, but takes time, commitment, and focus. Pray your intention internally in the form of meditation, while asking God to shift your energy.

More honest levels for proof of true belief comes through your own personal experiences. You may feel a sense of knowing at a soul level, using your fiver primary senses (hearing, vision, touch, smell, and taste). In nature, this derivative feeling is known as a gut feeling. If you delve deeper into that feeling, this strong knowing usually overcomes your existence. This knowing comes from the higher metaphysical energies which exist around and in your very essence.

__________________Rob Pikula
ROB PIKULA is an author, artist, metaphysical intuitive, and certified Reiki master. Pikula’s art was exhibited in
Modern Painters magazine of New York and Aesthetica of the UK. His first book, Our Children Come First, chronicles his battle for custody of his daughter. His forthcoming book will help parents and children overcome fear of spirits. Connect with Rob on Facebook and Twitter.

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