by Joseph Battaglia
“Joey, here’s five dollars. Run down to the store and get a half gallon of milk and a loaf of bread and be sure to bring back the change.” Along the way little Joey passed the five-and-ten cents store. He ducked in and saw a Superman mechanical pencil that just jumped into his hands and a matching pad of paper he just had to have.
He continued on his way to the corner store and bought the milk and bread his mother wanted. The problem was that instead of the over three dollars in change that Mom expected, Joey handed her only a one and some coins.
Joey’s Mom didn’t yell at him. She didn’t demand that he return the pencil and paper. She just looked at him in a pained way, knowing that the money he had spent on his own would be sorely missed. And because of the look on her face, Joey knew it too.
Tap, tap, tap, tap, tap. On that day, a little tattoo was placed on Joey’s mind that would never leave him. A mark that would affect many of his money decisions for the rest his life.
There was a lot of commotion in the house one Wednesday morning in July. Joey’s mom sent Joey to the neighbor’s house to play with their kids for a while. Early that afternoon, Joey’s mom took him aside and with tears in her eyes said, “Daddy died.” Joey’s only response was “Oh.”
Tap, tap, tap, tap, tap. At eight years old, Joey didn’t understand the impact that day would have on his life and, again, another tattoo was indelibly placed on his mind that would affect every relationship he would ever have.
As we move through our lives, everyone we meet, everyone with whom we have a relationship, every situation in which we find ourselves leaves an indelible mark, a tattoo if you will, on our very soul that we carry with us for the rest of our lives. We aren’t even aware of many of them, yet some of them guide our every move.
The art of living this life is to be aware of our “tattoos” and instead of reacting to our impulses, to stop for a second and ask ourselves if this or that action is in our best interests. We must also realize that we are only human and forgive ourselves for the missteps we make in our lives. At the time of all of our decisions, we only did what we thought was best at the time.
And following the same line of thought, remember that everyone else you meet is doing the same thing. Going on in every mind you meet is someone else having the same huge battle in his or her life. Try to have some compassion for the rest of us, because even though someone may seem to have it all together, we all have more or less the same number of tattoos etched from our past.
Joseph P Battaglia is a Relationship Coach who works with his wife Laurie, a Career, Leadership and Life Coach to coach people over 40 ready to reclaim their power and spark! Together, they own Living the Dream Coaches, LLC in Scottsdale Arizona. Call Joseph at (888)505-5762 or email at firstname.lastname@example.org. Joseph is currently writing a book on how to achieve and maintain greater intimacy in committed relationships.