Author Authenticity Stress: Why Being Yourself Is Best
© 2016 Kebba Buckley Button, MS, OM. World Rights Reserved.
Not being in sync with yourself causes stress in several ways: let’s call this authenticity stress. Today, I want you to check in with yourself to detect your level of authenticity stress. How truly You are you being? Are you being true to your desires for friendships, activities, work satisfaction, and health maintenance? Do you speak your truth? Do you speak in your authentic voice? When someone asks if you would like to go to a basketball game tonight, do you answer from your truth, however tactfully? There are 5 reasons for an author, especially, to be as much Yourself – as authentically you – as you can manage.
- Not being Yourself causes stress. It burns energy you could use being productive or having fun. Introverts trying to be extroverts, geeks trying to be prom royalty, clean language people trying to add swear words to fit in, active people trying to be still in a chair all day: these are all people cruising for exhaustion. Trying to be who we are not requires constant self-monitoring and effort. For some, it’s like acting all day. It’s an extra job. And your efforts would better be spent doing something beneficial.
- You are the expert on You. Who is more qualified to be You … than you? By now, you know whether you love to talk or get exhausted from answering phones all day. You know if cold climates burn you out and hot climates give you energy. You know if you love going to church on Sunday mornings or if your spirit feels the Divine Presence more in a three-hour sunrise hike. You know if you want to run a few more miles, or if you feel best taking a quiet yoga class. You know if you feel best in the right monogamous relationship or whether the single life is for you. Are you honoring your nature? Or are you trying to be someone else to get along? If you are, you have authenticity stress. Hubert Humphrey put it this way: “Just be what you are and speak from your guts and heart – it’s all a man has.”
“This, above all: to thine own self be true. And then it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man.” –Polonius, in Shakespeare’s Hamlet
- Maybe God made you this way? If you are a person of faith, you were made a certain way, so might that not be the best way to be You? If each of us is called to do certain things in this life, how will you ever fulfill your call if you are busy not being You?
- People in alignment succeed best. When it comes to yourself as a person and as a writer, regarding your goals and whatever else you wish to be true in life and in the world, you are most likely to achieve the things you wish to accomplish if you are in alignment with the energy of the results you desire. As film director/writer/producer David O. Russell said: “The closer you stay to emotional authenticity and people, character authenticity, the less you can go wrong. That’s how I feel now, no matter what you’re doing.”
- Follow Oscar Wilde’s advice. And save yourself a lot of time and energy. Wilde famously said, “Be yourself. Everyone else is taken.”
So here is a perfect opportunity for journaling. In your life, right now, what is your real nature and how are you not being You? How could you be more yourself? To what climate, work type, activities and friends are you best suited? How much quiet do you prefer? What types of things and colors and designs do you want in your home surroundings? How can you move in that direction, however patiently? Why not start now? Only You can beat your authenticity stress!
Now that’s Upbeat Living!
Kebba Buckley Button is a stress management expert and author of the award-winning book, Discover the Secret Energized You, as well as the 2013 book, Peace Within: Your Peaceful Inner Core, Second Edition. Her newest book, Sacred Meditation: Embracing the Divine, is available through her office. Just email SacredMeditation@kebba.com for more info. Like this article? Buy Kebba’s books by clicking the links! Reach the writer at firstname.lastname@example.org. For an appointment or to ask Kebba to speak for your group: email@example.com.